Your friend always rides bicycle and now he wants to buy a car. But he needs to do a part-time job to pay for the car. What’s your advice for him？
Is it ok for colleges to have members of community attend lectures for free, provided they are not awarded certificates?
（三选一）What kind of a friend best guarantees a long-lasting friendship？
One who helps you out when you face crisis or go through difficulties
One who shares similar interests and views with you
One who trusts you completely
In rejecting the alternative options, namely a friend sharing similar views and interests with and one evincing unconditional trust in me, I note they are both limited in a number of ways. In the first place, although a like-minded friend can facilitate the making of the friendship, it does not necessarily promote its longevity. This is because when friends spend all their time together, they are more likely to grow tired of each other, especially when they are sure of what one another thinks. After all, the perception that familiarity does breed contempt plays itself out frequently in the experience of life, which is why two persons of an identical personality sometimes do not make for ideal roommates. As for the remaining option of unconditional trust, I note it can be a recipe for disappointment. Regardless of how sentimental it can get, a friendship should not become untethered from reason. By committing to giving unconditional faith to an individual, one is sure to experience cognitive dissonance. For if a person commits willful treachery, or leaves a trail of deception, it is surely to one’s benefit to desire to know it and to abandon the friendship. Yet, by blinding accepting everything one is told as unmitigated truth, one compromises the goal of having and maintaining a fruitful friendship. And when the reality of deception and treachery sinks in, the friendship is surely untenable.? ??
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